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10 Steps to Triumph

“10 Steps to Triumph” by Joan Y. Edwards

This year, continue striving for goals that you didn’t achieve in an earlier year. Don’t sit on your dreams. Don’t live with I wish I had or I regret that I didn’t. Move toward your goals this year.

  • Can you measure it? You don’t want a vague goal like  “I will write more.”
  • Write your goal in the present tense beginning with:

I am….
I have…
I take time to…
I learn to…

Put all your goals on a sheet of paper for the present year. 

  • Is your goal attainable? Could anyone like you accomplish this goal? What are the advantages and disadvantages of reaching your goal?
  • Do you really want to do it?
  • Face your fears. Find someone who’s done what you want to do.
  • When you achieve a goal, celebrate and then set a new goal.

1. Pray for God’s guidance and wisdom. Have faith in yourself. 

When you get your belief system straight, you realize that all events lead you to your goals. They may be interesting detours, but if you reset your beliefs and restate your goals, you’ll get there. Why do I say that? Because inside your mind, you have an automatic success mechanism. Maxwell Maltz explains this in the Psycho-Cybernetics book. Like airplanes with automatic piloting systems, when you set your goals and believe you can do it, your automatic success mechanism goes to work and takes you to your goal.  If you stop believing, it takes you in the direction of failure. Believe in you and your goals. Believe in you.

Believe in yourself. Your belief will take you to your goal. When you stop believing in your ability to get there, something happens. You crumble. In order to meet your goal, you have to stabilize your belief system so that it gets you where you want to go.The thing always happens that you really believe in; and the belief in a thing makes it happen...Frank Lloyd Wright

Don’t feed your mind with negative thoughts. If you do, you will come to believe them...Catherine Pulsifer

2.Be ever thankful.

Be thankful for what you have. Make a long list of people, experiences, things and ideas for which you are thankful. Thank God for your skills and knowledge. If you want something different than what you have, be grateful for what you have now. Thank others when they do even the smallest thing for you.

Yogi Bhajan said, “Gratitude is the open door to abundance.”

Albert Schweitzer said, “In everyone’s life, at some time, our inner fire goes out. It is then burst into flame by an encounter with another human being. We should all be thankful for those people who rekindle the inner spirit.”

3. Put on a positive mindset every morning and night.

Start your day being thankful and expecting great things during the day. Lay down at night with a positive thankfulness. Think that you have an abundance of all that you need. Look for the good in yourself and others. Let go of grudges and unhappiness because of something you or someone else did or didn’t do.

Having negative thoughts is human. Try to accept them and move your thoughts to something more loving and positive. Limit the time you subject yourself to the negatives. The time we live in now throws terror, fear, and sickness on television and the movies 24 hours a day. Let it go. Focus on what you want and who you want in your life. Choose love and acceptance.

4. Relinquish control. Accept it as it is.

It’s amazing how much human beings want control of things. When you don’t know how it’s going to turn out, you are afraid to venture into the “unknown.” If you know it’s going to turn out okay, then you’re willing to take a chance. It’s very powerful and healing when you say: I Accept it. It is what it is. Accept yourself and the situation you’re in now.

Many times you may use a lot of energy complaining. You’re unhappy with things as they are. You want something else. Stop spending energy resisting the way things are. When you accept the situation, you take back your energy, it creates a better path for your new and improved life to enter.

5. Meet your needs.

Make plans to improve the situation in which you live. Take action to meet your needs and improve your physical, mental, emotional, spiritual, social, and financial well-being. Exercise your body and your mind. Relax. Interact meaningfully with others in person and online.

6. Celebrate something every day!

Celebrate each step you take. Celebrate each new thing you learn. Celebrate when you have a plan to keep unpleasant things from happening again. Celebrate when you have a plan that works to keep you rejuvenated and full of life. Help others celebrate, too. Fill yourself with as much joy as you possibly can. There’s one thing about joy, it is contagious. It spreads from you to another person. Sit at a window and rejoice that you are comfortable.

It is great to celebrate any time and every possible moment in your life. Oprah Winfrey said, “The more you praise and celebrate your life, the more there is in life to celebrate.”

7. Love yourself and others.

Be loving to yourself. Reach out to others in kindness.  Help someone do something they can’t do for themselves. Teach someone a new skill so they can do it for themselves next time.

8. Take a small risk outside of your comfort zone.

Try new things, travel new places, learn new skills, improve rusty skills, rekindle forgotten goals.

9. Invite your family and friends to join you in an activity.

It can be an activity you loved doing as a child, one you enjoy now, or a new one you’d like to try.

10. See situations with different eyes. Get a different perspective.

Look at a situation from the other person’s point of view. Pretend you’re on a star and look down. Pretend you’re an ant and look up. If you’re older, imagine what it would be if you were younger. If you’re younger, think about what it would be like if you were older. If you have loving parents, think about what it would be like for an orphan. Look at your goal like you’ve already achieved it.


  1. Brainy Quotes.  “Believe in Yourself:”http://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/keywords/believe_in_yourself.html#8WmP1bXCydDPA7xX.99
  2. Christina Diaz. “Thankful Quotes:” http://www.the-benefits-of-positive-thinking.com/thankful-quotes.html
  3. Linda Andersen. “A Writers Playground” gives many reasons and ideas to celebrate:  https://lindamartinandersen.wordpress.com/

Thanks for reading my blog. Feel free to ask questions and share your ideas in the comment area. I’d love to hear from you!

Never Give Up
Joan Y. Edwards
Copyright © 2016 Joan Y. Edwards



Let Anger and Frustration Go

Forgiveness Tunnel – Let it go
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“Let the Anger and Frustration Go” by Joan Y. Edwards

Don’t live in the past. Let go of the hurts and the frustrations of the past. Rejoice and celebrate little and big things in the present.
In the first 30 minutes of the following video, Joel Osteen gives you wonderful reasons to

  • let it drop
  • leave it, and
  • let it go.

Sometimes I think I’ve let something go, and I start to tell someone about this event that happened many moons ago. Yikes, I thought I’d forgiven that event. But, the fact that I resurrected it, means I need to go through the forgiveness tunnel again. In my mind, this is where you let things go, you drop them in the tunnel as you come up through it, and let it go, leaving the tunnel and all that hurt behind.
The Forgiveness Tunnel is like a garbage disposal. It tears stuff up into little pieces and makes it where you can’t determine what was in there. It takes all the negative emotions out and all their negative energy. It levels everything. All the trash and garbage disappears. When you turn around and look back, nothing looks different. However, it feels different in your heart. You feel lighter and happier.

There’s only one thing that can bring it all back. The human emotional memory card. It has video capabilities from years and years of experience.

You get to choose what you focus your thoughts, words, and actions on. Knowing I have a choice doesn’t seem to make it any easier to let go of things that bother or bothered me. I think it’s the fact that I’m human.

I discover that I need to go through the Forgiveness Tunnel again. Everyone’s Forgiveness Tunnel looks different.

Once you find a way to let go and forgive a situation, it is very freeing. It feels wonderful. You feel this big load is no longer on your shoulders or on top of your head.

It’s easier to let go when it’s the first time this has happened to you. To me, it gets harder to let go when the experience has what I call the “Grandfather effect.” When it’s happened before many times, it seems your psyche, your inner self has layer upon layer upon layer of emotional hurt to unload, forgive, and let go.

When you carry around anger, hurt, and other emotions with you and run the videos of what happened again and again, it’s like being on a merry-go-round and you want to get off. You don’t realize that this anger, hurt, and other stuff you’re carrying around from the past is hurting you. It’s keeping you from a clear focus on the present and steady movement towards your goals in the future.

All that stress makes it difficult for your body to heal and mend itself.

Many times you need help to truly let go and not want to control other people…make them do it the way you want. Ask God to help you.

In the following post, Mary L Kupferle explains how “God Will Show You How:” https://www.joanyedwards.com/god-will-show-you-how-by-mary-l-kupferle-public-domain/

Sometimes talking to a friend can help you change your focus in a healthier, more positive direction.

Sometimes believing it’s possible to let go of these hurts, makes it easier.

Sometimes a movie or a song has a message to help us let go and to see things in a different way.

God forgives you. God shares his mercy with you! Share his mercy with other person. Walk through that Forgiveness Tunnel and leave all that hurt behind.

A song that’s been popular since 2013 when Disney released the movie Frozen says, “Let It Go.” This is a song from Disney’s 2013 animated feature film Frozen. husband-and-wife songwriting team Kristen Anderson-Lopez and Robert Lopez composed its music and lyrics:

Here’s a sing-along version here:

Thanks for reading my blog.

Never Give Up
Joan Y. Edwards
Copyright © 2016 Joan Y. Edwards