“What to Do When You Run Out of Patience?” by Joan Y. Edwards
June Baker, a long time subscriber, asked me to write an article on patience. If you’re like me, patience is something you lack once in a while.
1. So you’re on your way to an appointment. You left a little later than you planned. Traffic is piled up more than usual. You caught every red light. They were doing road construction. The little man with the red stop sign kept you hostage for 5 minutes. If you open your window, you are afraid that your patience will fly right out the window. Is there enough patience to get you through all this?
2. Your spouse’s paycheck is cut 50% this month because of a foul up in the computer system. They plan to fix it but it will be a week before the extra money comes in. You have a mortgage payment and a car payment that are due. The school called and your youngest child has thrown up and is running a fever. You drive to the school and pick your child up and you have a flat tire on the way home. Is there enough patience to get you through all this?
3. Your child has a math problem you are clueless how to solve. Another child waited until the night before to tell you that she needs a costume for a play at school the next day. Your older child calls from the gym and has broken his leg. Is there enough patience to get your through all this?
4. One more scenario. You are cooking supper for a special friend. You put the meat in the oven. You get distracted and don’t set the timer. When you get back in the kitchen to check on the meat, it is burnt beyond the possibility of eating it. You still have a great salad. Is there enough patience to get your through all this?
Do you spend all evening beating yourself up?
Do you laugh and relax because you know everyone makes mistakes some worse than yours? Do you realize that no one is perfect? No one can master handling every problem with finesse and patience.
Here’s the secret to patience.
Take a deep breath. Breathe in patience. Breathe out anxiety. Breathe in patience. Breathe out self-doubt. Breathe in love. Breathe out judgment. Breathe in patience.
Relinquish the want or need to control. Accept that situations may be as you hoped and expected. But, also accept that situations may not turn out as you hoped or expected. You are not in control of all situations. You can monitor and control your reactions.
Relinquish the idea that you should be perfect. I know from personal experience that is not humanly possible. But realize that you come pretty close most of the time. Some days, give you a little trouble, but not all days.
Doing the following things will help you have patience:
Get plenty of sleep.
Do ten minutes of exercise each day.
Encourage someone in person, on the phone, or by email.
Ask God to help you.
Repeat one of these affirmations for 21 days. Put the one you choose on a 3×5 index card. Tape it to your computer or bathroom mirror.
I have an abundance of patience.
Today I have enough patience.
Tomorrow I will have an abundance of patience.
I choose to have enough patience today.
Here are things you can do to help you build patience:
Pray and ask God for more patience.
Work puzzles: crossword, word search, jigsaw
Start out 15 minutes earlier for an appointment.
Take a breather between activities.
Take time to rest, breathe, and do your research before making long-term decisions.
Find a different way to handle a situation so you don’t stress out about it.
What should you do when you have an anxiety attack when you have no patience at all. Say, “I am fine the way I am right now. I am good and worthy right now. I have enough patience for every situation I am in.”
Thank you, June Baker for suggesting this topic. I hope my ideas and those in the resources help you.
Thank you for reading my post. I wish you luck in gaining trust that you have enough patience for every situation you are in. Please write and tell me how you gain patience. How do you accept yourself as you are?
Greg Bell. “Strategies for Increasing Patience:” https://www.gregbellspeaks.com/blog/strategies-for-increasing-patience
Melissa Eisler. “7 Strategies to Build and Improve Patience:” https://melissaeisler.com/improve-patience/
Cleveland Clinic. “7 Tips for Better Patience:” https://health.clevelandclinic.org/7-tips-for-better-patience-yes-youll-need-to-practice/