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Accept Yourself As You Are

Accept Yourself As You Are

“Accept Yourself As You Are” by Joan Y. Edwards

From June 19, 2020 to July 3, 2020 my husband, Carl, was in the hospital. He is now in rehab. He had a severe infection in half of his colon which caused his blood pressure to drop dangerously low.  He fell and I called 911. They took him to emergency room and put him in ICU for 2 days. They cleared up the infection with anti-biotics. No surgery needed. Thank you, God. Then neuropathy set in and still low blood pressure. They gave him medicine to build blood pressure and to keep neuropathy away.

Why am I writing this post? To remind you to love and accept yourself as you are right this moment. Every day of your life, it is vitally important to accept yourself with all your frailties, imperfections, all the things you are capable of doing, and all the things you are not able to do because of things out of your control.

There are certain times in your life it may seem like you are powerless. I felt that way many times during the past two weeks and three days. You want to make people feel better and cure their ailments, especially those you love.  However, God is in charge of that. He puts all the people and resources in your life and the life of those you love to give them everything they need at this moment.

Prayer is very powerful. Many people prayed and asked God to heal Carl.  His infection is gone. He didn’t need surgery. He is in a great skilled nursing facility with  physical therapy and occupational therapy. Thank you, God. Thank you to all those who prayed for Carl.

What I had to accept: That the resources were not available at this time to give Carl the help he needs to get better at home. That God wanted Carl to be in the skilled nursing facility where he has people and resources to help heal him.

I also reminded Carl to love himself as he is. I told him everyone goes through times in their lives when their bodies aren’t doing what they want. I told him that everyone has to remind themselves to love themselves as they are each day of their lives.  To say to themselves, I am getting better every day.

I love myself as I am right now.
I can do everything that God wants me to do right now.
I am good.
I am safe.
I am getting better each day.
God loves me very much.

COVID 19 added much stress but thank goodness, things are in place to better protect employees, visitors, and patients in hospitals and skilled nursing facilities. Thank you, God, for all these employees who take risks every day to help others.

Say to yourself:

I love myself as I am right now.
I can do everything that God wants me to do right now.
I am good.
I am safe and well.
God loves me very much.

There are many other great hints that I learned from caring for my Mother to help you care for yourself and for your elder in my book, Joan’s Elder Care Guide: Empowering You and Your Elder to Survive

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Joan Y. Edwards

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Songs Cheer and Heal

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“Songs Cheer and Heal” by Joan Y. Edwards

Singing songs can cheer you. Songs can change your mood. More than likely the songs you hear have the sounds that heal you.

My sister, Judith, (God bless her soul) studied with Native Americans  who believe that each of us has a sound that when we hear it, it heals us spiritually, physically, and emotionally.

When you were a baby, perhaps your Mother and/or Father sang lullabies to help you relax and go to sleep.

When you were just learning to walk, you heard certain sounds that made you want to dance.

When you were a teenager some music made you feel in love or swoon over the person who sang it. You imagined they were singing that particular song just for you.

If you were married, you chose songs to be played at your wedding. Chances are you didn’t choose Wagner’s Operatic music for your wedding.

If you’re feeling bad and sad and want to linger this mood and feel sorry for yourself, there are songs that will also help prolong that mood.

A song I have sung from the time I was five years old that gives me life is Flip Flap Floodle. Each time I tell the story and sing the song, I feel invigorated. I feel like I can keep on going. It’s a catchy tune. It has the same effect on the children and adults who hear it.

Flip Flap Floodle‘s Song. You keep singing it over and over again. It’s fun. It’s healing. I tried for many years to get the story published. I self-published it in 2004. It gave me a great deal of joy to accomplish this. You can buy it or only $10.00  on Amazon.com:  Flip Flap Floodle.

Beginning in 1985, I cared for my Mother, Ethel D. Meyer for 14 years. During that time I noticed the power that music played in her moods and emotions. From my bedroom one day in 2000, I heard her shout, “WHOO EEE! WHOO EEE!”

I wondered what was going on that had her so excited. It must be good. I went to her room to see why she was so happy. When I entered her room she was sitting up watching television. I looked on the television screen and I saw a man singing. It was one of those programs where they earn money for Public Television stations. Across the bottom of the screen, it flashed his name: Daniel O’Donnell. He was from Ireland. Mother was mesmerized by him. You can see why by listening to him sing “You Raise Me Up.”

Mother looked at me and said, “He shakes my corpuscles.” She used to say Daddy shook her corpuscles. He died in 1978.

I thought if this man, Daniel O’Donnell brings her so much joy, I’ll buy a video tape so she can watch him whenever she wants. They were asking $100.00 for a video. I found his videos cheaper on the internet. I believe this was the end of November 2000. I purchased one for Christmas and the next one would come for Mother’s birthday in January. I also paid for Mother to join the Daniel O’Donnell.

When Mother got the video at Christmas, she held it close to her heart and said, “MY MAN.”

Sometimes she would go around singing, “Meet me in St. Louis, Louie. Meet me at the Fair.” So I found videos of many great musicals that may have been popular when she younger. She loved watching them. She didn’t mind seeing them over and over again.

When Mother’s left hip broke and she fell earlier that year, I sang songs from my childhood and hymns that I liked. I was so frightened. The songs I sang had to be ones I knew the words to, or the melody to sing or hum. Singing these songs gave me strength to know that I’d be able to make it. They also seemed to calm Mother down. Her facial expression showed it calmed her to sing along with me or just to listen.

When Mother was in the hospital in 2009 before she died, I started singing these songs and hymns again. My sister, Janet and I sang her favorite songs and ours over and over again. Although it was her time to go have her special meeting with God in heaven, it still brought peace to her body and mind. She wasn’t able to sing this time, but you could tell by her body language that it relaxed her.

Mother died on March 18, 2009. She was 92 years young. She taught me so much about a positive attitude and about how music healed her and gave her life.

My husband, Carl, loves the music of the fifties. He can be down and out. If he hears music from the 50’s, he’s immediately upbeat and ready to face the world.

At the memorial service, funeral mass and graveside service for my Mother, we sang these hymns, folks songs, Daniel O’Donnell songs to celebrate her life.

I discovered that music was the way for healing for my Mother, my sister, my husband, my family and friends, and me, I thought I would share this information with you, in hopes that it will help you love living.

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Enjoy being your sweet self.

Never Give Up
Joan Y. Edwards
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Updated September 20, 2019