Joan Y. Edwards is author/illustrator of folktale Flip Flap Floodle, a happy little duck who never gives up on his song even in the Mr. Fox's belly. She is author of 4RV Publishing's Joan's Elder Care Guide. It is full of practical hints and resources to promote healing and make caregiving easier. She has published 80 Gospel-Based Crossword Puzzles for Year A, B, and C. She has a Master of Education. She is a member of the Society of Children's Book Writers and Illustrators (SCBWI) and Charlotte Writers Club. She enjoys watching humorous mysteries, like Columbo and Monk. Time at home, beach and mountain with family and friends energizes her..
“Enthusiasm Is the Key to Success” by Joan Y. Edwards
You have enthusiasm when you show intense enjoyment, interest, and approval for your goals. You may have ups and downs in attempting a project or striving to reach a goal. Sometimes all you need is to give your enthusiasm a little boost.
You have had ups and downs in your life. Some people may have stated that you were a failure in a few areas. However, they didn’t elaborate on all the areas in which you do quite well. You may have to look for them and supply this list of good things yourself.
Yes, you may become depressed for a short amount of time. Then, you discover something that makes you enthusiastic about it. It makes you feel playful, gives you high-energy, optimistic, and you think up new ideas to help you succeed. You look for solutions to the problems that show up.
Let’s say you are a teacher and you haven’t gotten rave reviews. So you study different techniques to make your teaching better or that help you teach in such a manner that others perceive you as being a great teacher.
Many of you may have been taught not to question those in authority. You may have to learn to speak up for yourself. You must say to yourself, “I may not do it their way, but my way still works.”
Some people may declare themselves as failures if they lose a job. Don’t do that. Chances are you may be in the wrong job or you need more training in the job you have. You may need to build a better belief system with education and loving yourself.
If you want to be a published author, be enthusiastic about your chances to be published. No matter how much the odds are against you. You are the key force in obtaining the publication of your story, your book, your screenplay. If you lose your belief that it can and will happen, you lose your enthusiasm. The belief and enthusiasm are tied together. If you seem to lack enthusiasm, check your belief system. Chances are, someone or something has tampered with it and destroyed a bit of it. It seems to me that if someone shakes your belief system, it is like a tower of blocks. Pull one block out and all of them go tumbling down.
Believe in yourself. No matter what you’re doing. Believe in you. If you’re a dishwasher learn to be the best dishwasher in town. In some situations, you may take things too personally. However with support from family and coworkers, you may realize that what others say is not necessarily the truth, it’s only their opinion. Opinions are not always facts.
Love yourself. Look for the good in you. Educate yourself to build your skills. Take opportunities to expand your horizons beyond your comfort zone. Don’t blame someone else for your failures. Realize this experience does not define how strong you are. You can improve. Realize that you have many strengths. Take advantage of them. Improve your weaknesses so that they will not hurt you.
Bloom where you are planted. Celebrate each day. Celebrate each step you take to improve your situation. Celebrate each step you take to improve your attitude and your enthusiasm. Believe in you. You are a success.
Thank you for reading this article. I wish you success in all your endeavors. If I can help you, let me know. God will help you. Ask him. Please leave a comment. I love hearing from those who read my blog.
“Don’t Let Failure Define Who You Are” by Joan Y. Edwards
It is difficult to fail. It hurts your ego. It is emotionally hard to handle. However, you can handle it. Don’t let this failure define who you are.
List all the things you are thankful you can do easily and well.
Say to yourself silently and aloud: “I can do this. I know I can do it.”
Study how to succeed and try again. You will do better the second time. Learn knowledge and skills. B Become better able to perform certain skills. Become better able to accomplish goals. Gain competence and experience. Attain growth in all areas.
1. Ask a friend how to do it.
2. Search the internet on how to do what you want to be proficient at doing: https://www.google.com/.
3. Read books that explain how to do it.
4. Watch Youtube.com videos of how others do it.
5. Pay a professional to teach you how to do it.
Try again. If you fail a second time, it doesn’t mean that you are a total failure. Dust yourself off. Try again. It means you only failed at one thing. Study, pray, and try, try again.
Thank you for reading this article. I am praying it fills you with hope and confidence that you can do whatever is bogging you down with a lack of confidence. Please leave a note to encourage others. Tell me what helps you try, try, again.
“What to Do When You Feel Powerless” by Joan Y. Edwards
A friend of mine and fellow author has been going to very rough times physically and mentally. To protect her identity, I’ll call her Mimi.
Mimi felt like her life was swinging out of her control. Her counselor suggested, “Do something you truly enjoy and that you can feel in control of setting up.”
Mimi planned several zoom video interviews with students. She did the interviews and it took away a lot of stress and added warm feelings to her heart and mind.
Mimi said her counselor was right. Doing those interviews helped her feel more relaxed because she viewed them as enjoyable and felt she had control over them.
Here are other things you can do that will help you feel more in control and reduce stress for you
Pray. Ask God to help you.
Do a chore that only takes 10 minutes to complete.
a. Set the table.
b. Take out the trash.
c. Take out the recycling.
d. Take a short walk around the house or inside the house.
e. Put on a load of clothes to wash.
Call a friend who makes you happy.
Watch your favorite movie. You know how it ends. No stress there.
Fix your favorite meal.
Visit a friend.
Listen to your favorite song. Music is mood changing.
Email someone and tell them how much they mean to you.
I hope these ideas help you. A special thanks to my friend, Mimi and her counselor for sharing her lifegiving advice.
Please leave a comment. Tell us what helps you get out of a stressed, powerless feeling.
“Expect an Abundance of Everything You Need” by Joan Y. Edwards
Many times in life it doesn’t seem like you have enough of things you believe you need to survive. Sometimes it’s knowledge. Sometimes it’s money. Sometimes it’s things. Other times, it’s courage. All the time love and wisdom.
“Ask and you shall receive.” (John 16:24)
Kendra Cherry shares that psychologist, Carl Rogers, says to look at the stories of people who do amazing things. “When I look at the world I’m pessimistic, but when I look at people I am optimistic.”
Regardless of the facts that you face, it is very important that you expect that you will receive an abundance of what you need.
Your brain wants you to be right. If you say, “Things never work out for me,” guess what! Things will not work out for you many times.
If you say things work out great for me, then things have a better chance of working out than if you say things never work out for you.
There is power in your words, your thoughts, and your actions.
Put it in your plans to receive a good whole car. Why would you ask for a half of a car? So if you need a car, expect a good car to show up. Take action to help that belief materialize.
Save the money and put it in a special money market account so it gets more interest than a regular savings account for a car.
Keep your eyes and ears open for a good bargain when you have enough money to purchase one.
If you have trouble believing good things will happen to you, start by making a list of all the things and people you are thankful for in your life. A spirit of thankfulness brings you more of what you are thankful for.
In her article on the Writers on the Move blog post entitled, “Trick to Help You Start Writing or Finish Writing,” Suzanne Lieurance gives many ideas for lists that I believe will help you be more optimistic. Two of them I think will help change your focus: Make a list of things you enjoy doing. Another is make a list of things you want to learn how to do.
What you focus on is what you are going to get. If something bad or sad happened to you, acknowledge it, but revamp your thinking so you don’t spend days and days worrying about it or trying to change something that cannot be changed. Reset your goals. Reset your thoughts to as positive as you can get at that particular time.
Ways to Change Your Mood and Your Mind’s Focus:
1. Pray. Thank you, God. I have an abundance of everything I need today. What I need comes to me from sources known and sources unknown.
2. Watch funny movies or movies with happy endings.
3. Listen to your favorite music.
4. Take a nap.
5. Take a walk.
6. Be thankful and name the different times you have been blessed with what you needed.
7. Make a list of the things you want and need in your life right now.
Don’t worry about tomorrow. Tomorrow will take care of itself *Matthew 6:34
I am sure these cookies will taste good anytime, but especially close to Easter Sunday. On the webpage above it describes the Easter Story of the Resurrection of Jesus with the cookies. I found this page with this recipe many moons ago. I hope you enjoy reading about them and possibly making them.
May all your days be blessed with goodness in your heart!
“Get Ready for Tomorrow: Set Out Your Clothes Tonight” by Joan Y. Edwards
A great way to get ready for tomorrow is to set out your clothes tonight.
Before my late husband, Carl, went to bed, he used to set his clothes out for the next day. Socks in shoes; shirt, pants, belt, hat. He got up at 4:30 every workday. He left our home at 5:45 a.m.
When I was in high school, I wore a uniform to school each day. Sometimes, early in the morning, I discovered that a clean uniform wasn’t in existence. The skirt and blouse hadn’t been washed and ironed.
When you have a young child, you sometimes do this before going somewhere special, why not do it every day?
My point is, it would have been good if I had laid my clothes out or put them in a special part of the closet ready for service during high school. A few days ago, I started putting my clothes out for the next day. It felt amazing. I hope you’ll try it, if you’re not already doing it.
Having a valet stand would be great, but a chair with the clothes on it and shoes and socks under it would be good. Or a table. Your creativity will find a way perfect for you! I hang mine in the bathroom.
I hang my pants over the hanger. I put the shirt over the hanger. If I need a sweater, I put that on top of the shirt. You can put the socks in the shoes or use a clothespin to attach underpants, bra, and socks to your shirt, pants, or hanger.
What can you do to calm yourself from today’s events and be ready and quite spunky with energy for the next day? Setting my clothes out for the next day helps calm me down and gives me confidence I can make it.
Another way to calm yourself is to forgive yourself and anyone else who aggravated you that day. Ask God to replenish your basket of things you need. Ask him to give you more of all the resources you used up today. Patience, money, knowledge, wisdom, understanding, courage, etc.
Say the “Lord’s Prayer.”
Our Father, who art in heaven, hallowed be thy name; thy kingdom come; thy will be done on earth as it is in heaven. Give us this day our daily bread; and forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us; and lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil.
For Thine is the kingdom, and the power and the glory forever. Amen.
Do you plan what you are going to wear the next day the night before? Please leave a comment and tell me about it.
I hope you enjoy my Lenten Reflection for March 10, 2022 for St. Matthew Catholic Church.
Did you know that God provides a daily delivery service? God himself drops a basket of gifts to you every morning and places it in the cupboard of your heart. God says to you, “Be at peace. Here is everything you need to survive today in abundance: faith, hope, love.”
When you try to change the past and control the future, you run out of love, wisdom, and compassion. The grip of anger, sadness, and grief puts you in a very deep hole of hopelessness. Fear blinds you from seeing solutions to your problems. Wanting control of the future keeps you from hearing God’s voice. You feel empty.
Be of good cheer. God is faithful to you. He delivers a basket of mercies to you every day of your life (Lamentations 3:21-23). He never holds back his love for you. God gives you all you need. He fills you up. Breathe in peace. Exhale fear. Breathe in faith. Exhale distrust. Breathe in hope. Exhale despair. Breathe in love. Exhale hate.
Talk with God. He is a good listener. Explain everything that keeps you from believing that you have enough. Tell him your problems. Ask him your questions. Tell him what scares you. Tell him what makes you happy or sad.
God loves you. Love yourself as you are right now. Picture the positive. Walk where nature can nourish you and replenish calmness. Visit a place where you feel close to God. Make something. Listen to your favorite music. Be kind. Smile. Be thankful. God will be there for you every day of your life. You can count on it. God’s love for you is everlasting!
I was going through a rough time in January and February 2022 when Jim Alvarez from my church, St. Matthew in Charlotte asked me to do a Lenten reflection. I was so excited when I figured out that I was thinking I didn’t have enough…I was sad. There were so many people in my life who were sick and some nearing death. It seemed like everything was caving in on me. Then I remembered God gives us an abundance of all we need. I looked for scriptures and I found in the New Century Version of the Bible:
21 But I have hope when I think of this:
22 The Lord’s love never ends; his mercies never stop. 23 They are new every morning; Lord, your loyalty is great.
I hope you enjoyed this devotional/reflection of God’s Love for You. Please leave a comment and let me know if you would like for me to do more of these video reflections.
Here are two other video reflections with text that I did.
Wise Words: Add Payable on Death (POD) Beneficiaries to Your Bank Accounts” by Joan Y. Edwards
Before my late husband, Carl, died, he went to the banks and added me and his daughter, as beneficiary of all his bank accounts. This agreement was called a P.O.D. (Payable On Death).
This was a blessing. When I showed the banks my driver’s license (prove of my identity) and a certified copy of his death certificate, the money moved swiftly and smoothly into my name.
Payable on Death (POD)
Add Payable on Death (POD) agreements on all your bank accounts, Certificates of Deposit, and your Savings Bonds.
Payable on Death money is transferred to beneficiaries without question with a certified copy of a death certificate and your driver’s license or other personal identification. This money is not included in probate court.
If a Payable on Death (POD) beneficiary agreements are not allowed where you live, you can choose to open a joint account or make sure you have designated who you want to receive the money in your will. Talk with your banker or financial consultant. (Thanks, Melanie Robertson-King for letting me know this may not true in all countries.)
1. Something I learned from my misunderstanding of family trusts, is if you want something to go into a Family Trust, it must be deeded as owned by the Family Trust. For instance, a car must be deeded to the Family Trust for the Family Trust to be able to give it to someone. Not John Doe – It would be the Family Trust of John Doe.
“Seattle, Washington with My Sister, Judith” by Joan Y. Edwards
In the summer of 2010 I had the good fortune of visiting with my sister, Judith and her family a couple of hours away from Seattle, Washington. I love ducks. I wrote and illustrated a book about a little duck, Flip Flap Floodle. Even mean ole Mr. Fox can’t stop this little duck. He never gives up.
I thought it would be fun to join the Ride the Ducks tour on land and water. My sister and her son, Mike, his wife Carla, their son, Kevin, and his girlfriend, Ashley joined me in the venture. It is both a bus and a boat. As we went through the streets of Seattle, the guide told us to put our right arm up high and pull it down and say, “Ka-Ching” each time we saw a Starbucks Coffee shop. Oh my goodness. We must have seen over 100 Starbucks locations. Starbucks started out in Seattle. They also told us about other fun things throughout the city including the Century Link stadium where the Seattle Seahawks play.
Here’s a picture of me in my Ducky hat.
My favorite part of the ride was going out onto the beautiful calm waters of Lake Union.
I hope you get a chance to do something fun and even a bit quacky next time you go on vacation. Laughter heals and gives you great memories. It’s a great day when you have fun, especially with with your family.
Another Ride the Ducks Boat that I saw while on our ducky boat.
Another boat on Lake Union, Seattle, Washington.
Thank you for reading my blog. I love having you visit. I’d love to hear about your fun adventures.
I revised this February, 2022 because the pictures somehow disappeared from the post.
It’s a Great Day! Never Give Up
Joan Y. Edwards, Author Firebird Book Award Winner Flip Flap Floodle Will this little duck’s song save him from Mr. Fox?
St. Clare’s feast day is April 11. She was born July 16, 1194 and died on August 11, 1253.
St. Clare’s father wanted her to get married at the age of 15. She asked to wait until she was 18. When she was 18, she heard and became intrigued with St. Francis of Assisi and his manner of giving up much for God. St. Francis cut her hair and gave her a robe for her habit. She got her sister, St. Agnes, to join her. They called themselves Poor Sisters.
After her death, Pope changed the named the order of nuns after her…the St. Clares. Her order of nuns did not move around the countryside. They lived in place together spending time doing manual labor and praying. They lived without money. Like St. Francis, Clare believed it was joyous to live in poverty in imitation of Christ.
There are two stories that are interesting to me about St. Clare.
She was quite ill. When rough soldiers of Frederick II were coming to raid her convent, she had the blessed sacrament placed at the gates where they could see it. She knelt there inside the walls and asked God to protect the sisters in her care. The soldiers became very frightened and left quickly without harming St. Clare and her companions.
Pope Pius XII designated her as the patron saint of television in 1958 because when Clare was too sick to attend Mass, it was said that she was able to see and hear it on the wall of her room. Isn’t it interesting that Mother Angelica, who is a Poor Clare Nun, founded the Eternal Word Television Network (EWTN)?
Devotional: Remember that praying always makes things better. The Lord’s Prayer is my favorite. “Our Father who art in heaven, hallowed be thy name. Thy kingdom come. Thy will be done on earth as it is in heaven. Give us this day, our daily bread. And forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive our trespassers. And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil. For thine is the kingdom, and the power, and the glory forever. Amen.”
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